Feelings After Diagnosis

Being told that you have Mesothelioma or any other form of cancer is certainly enough to throw even the strongest person into a tailspin.  The newly-diagnosed cancer sufferer faces tough thoughts and questions.  Why has this happened to me?  How long will I live?  Who will take care of my family if I die?  Am I strong enough to handle this?  Is this my fault? 

As daunting as the questions may seem, it’s important to deal with all of them, with the help of family members, friends, and your medical team.  Seeking professional help from a psychologist or psychiatrist may even be necessary for some cancer sufferers, especially shortly after diagnosis.

Why Me?

This is often the first question most new cancer patients ask themselves.  They often begin to question God or other higher beings in which they believe.  Perhaps you believe you’ve lived a wholesome life and fail to understand why you’re being “punished.”  When these questions arise, it’s often a good idea to talk with a clergy member or other professional counselor.

Disbelief

Shock is also a natural reaction to any life-altering event such as a cancer diagnosis.  The newly-diagnosed may feel like they’re “in a fog”, be unable to talk about the diagnosis, seem devoid of emotion, or they may ask for information to be repeated over and over again.  Others may talk about the diagnosis non-stop, just to confirm that it’s really happening.  Be patient.  The shock will eventually recede. 

Fear and Uncertainty

A cancer diagnosis clouds the future.  Even if you had your life carefully planned out before the diagnosis, you suddenly have no idea what the next several months or years will bring.  The best way to address fear and uncertainty is to learn all you can about your cancer, its treatment, and your prognosis.  The truth is often not as scary as being kept in the dark.  Talk frankly with your doctor and take time to do some research on your own. If questions arise, ask them immediately. 

Anger

A cancer diagnosis never comes at a convenient time and it’s natural to be angry that life-as-you-know-it is being interrupted.  Family members will accept the fact that you may be moody and irritable, but it’s best to try not to direct your anger at them.  Find someone who will talk with you and can help you express your anger and move on with your treatment and/or recovery.

Blame and Guilt

Those diagnosed with Mesothelioma are quick to blame themselves for their cancer.  Why did I work there?  Why didn’t I take precautions?  The fact remains that, many decades ago, most workers were unaware that they were being exposed to hazardous materials on a daily basis.  Many factors play a role in the development of cancer and chances are that you didn’t do anything to cause this.

Depression

Any normal person will be depressed by a cancer diagnosis.  Letting your depression consume your life, however, can be dangerous.  If your depression doesn’t disappear as you come to grips with your diagnosis, seek help from a professional counselor or ask your doctor about prescription drugs designed to relieve depression.  A healthy outlook will aid in your treatment or recovery.

 Avoidance or Denial

Sometimes, cancer victims just don’t want to talk about their disease.  While family members may be anxious to help by sharing thoughts and suggestions, it can be a good idea to let the cancer victim be silent for a while.  If, however, you suspect that the patient is in denial, it may be best to seek the help of his medical team in coaxing him to enter into some discussion about treatment, prognosis, and other important things that will ultimately affect his life and the lives of those who are near and dear to him.

The Power of Positive Thinking

No one expects someone with Mesothelioma to be cheery and upbeat all the time.  Studies have shown, however, that a positive attitude can help aid recovery and assist patients in successfully tackling difficult procedures or treatments.  Try to focus on the good as much as possible.  Take time to be with positive-thinking family and friends.  As much as possible, include things in your daily life that you love, like hobbies or travel.