Relationship Issues - Talking About Cancer

Emotional Effects | Sexuality | Talking about Cancer | Talking to Children

After you’ve been diagnosed with mesothelioma, you may find it very difficult to discuss your disease. It will no doubt make you sad and cause you to view your relationships with others in a different light.

On the other hand, if you are eager to talk with others about your diagnosis and to get their support and input, others may feel awkward or uncomfortable discussing the issue with you. 

Everyone handles their diagnosis differently.  Some may choose never to talk about the disease with their loved ones, others will feel more comfortable talking only with a professional, and some meso sufferers will have no problem discussing their disease.  It’s all up to you.

To Tell or Not to Tell

Part of the fear of talking to others involves the fact that you’re probably concerned about holding on to your emotions when talking about your cancer.  You may find it embarrassing to cry in front of others or are unaccustomed to not being the “strong” one.   

Some people are concerned about how others will react.  Will they cry too?  Will they stop being my friend now that I have cancer?  Will they be willing to support me in some way?  Having to face those questions can be a scary proposition, so some people choose not to talk about their cancer at all.

If you’re in denial about your cancer, telling others will serve to make your diagnosis a reality.  That may be why you avoid telling your friends and family members about your mesothelioma.

The Benefits of Talking to Others about your Cancer

Studies show that most cancer patients reap comfort from talking to others about their disease.  A particular individual that you choose to confide in may just turn out to be that trusted friend who will be there for you throughout your struggles with the disease.  This may be just the bond you need to get you through difficult times.

Discussing your diagnosis and expressing your thoughts about cancer may also help you get in touch with your own feelings about the disease and its outcome.  Talking about fear may help the fear to stop growing and taking over your life. 

Furthermore, you may find that speaking with someone who’s also a mesothelioma patient may help you deal with your own diagnosis.  While it’s not always a good idea to compare notes (everyone’s disease is different), just having that person to chat with might help you cope.